I felt guilty that I wasn’t being a good enough mum

Leanne worried how her breast cancer diagnosis would affect her relationship with her two sons.

Leanne worried how her breast cancer diagnosis would affect her relationship with her two sons.

I never expected to hear that I had breast cancer at 33. Initially, I was told the lump in my breast was probably nothing to worry about.

When the consultant said that the biopsy showed cancer, I didn’t hear anything else she said. I felt numb. Then came the anger, the upset the frustration.

What about my boys? I imagined the absolute worst.

I was advised that I would need a lumpectomy. However, after further scans, I was told another area in my breast was suspicious. I made the decision to have a mastectomy and get rid of all the tissue. Six days later I had a mastectomy and immediate reconstruction. I’m happy to say the results have really surprised me - it is incredible what surgeons can do! 

The surgery left me extremely sore. I couldn’t do normal day to day activities with my sons – picking them up when they wanted a hug or playing the rough and tumble games little boys love. I felt guilty that I wasn’t being a good enough mum.

I haven't started treatment yet, but I am anxious about it affecting my relationship with my boys. But I’m fortunate to have an amazing support network of family and friends, as well as the support from my breast care team. If I have a wobble or a difficult day there are people I can talk to who I know will listen and support me, outside of those closest to me.

I wanted to host an Afternoon Tea to give something back and do something positive to help others who have to go through a similar experience to me. Thinking about hosting my Afternoon Tea will help me take my mind off things.

It will be a fabulous afternoon, having friends and family around, a wonderful excuse to all get together, have fun, and raise money for a fantastic cause.

 

Be part of something exciting this July. Join us for an Afternoon Tea and help support people with breast cancer.

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